How to deal with haters:
When starting a new business venture you are going to have to know how to deal with haters. Now, I’m not just talking about your enemies who just what to see you fail at everything. I’m talking about those closest to you who think you are crazy, or are just not supportive of you and your dreams. They may even just be indifferent. It could be parents, or a spouse, significant other, or other immediate family. Your best friend, and close friends are on that list too. Some may say they are supportive, but do their actions match their words?
Downside to Personal Growth:
When you first start building a business, most people find out they have to change a lot of who they are to be successful. They have to give up and sacrifice a lot in the beginning. This can lead to a lot of tension between you and those who’s habits and routines revolved around the same ones you had before you decided to do this crazy adventure. Now all of a sudden, you aren’t coming over every day, or watching that favorite show, or partying all hours of the night. Missing out on fishing / hunting trips, or whatever it is. Deciding to go into business for yourself requires a lot of you time and focus…not to mention money. On top of that, if you are reading a lot of books, and taking the teachings to heart, then your habits, and routines are changing too. All of these things add up to a strain on your current relationships.
Be prepared to lose Friends.
It isn’t uncommon that entrepreneurs have a period where no one is standing next to them while they are grinding. In fact if you have a lot of friends who complain or are negative all the time, they will end up more than likely causing you so much grief, you have to sever ties with them and walk away. Building a business is hard enough with support, let alone with a flood of negative people in your ear every day. According to the book “The Power of Habit“, it isn’t that they don’t love you. It’s that they are so afraid to lose the old you, that they fight to keep you where you are. We tend to resist the unfamiliar, and therefore avoid change.
Now for the Good news.
Here is how to deal with haters. Don’t care about other peoples opinions. Friends, family, current coworkers, you name it. If you believe in your dream, and you believe you can be successful, then who cares what people think? Reinforce your “Why” every day. It is why setting goals and deadlines for achieving them is so important. Being laser focused on what you are trying to accomplish over anything else. Now, don’t neglect your health or children / spouse, but emphasize what is involved to accomplish your goals. Just remember why you are doing this in the first place. Most of your friends will come back around once you are successful. Hopefully asking for help themselves to get where you are and not with their hands out.
Get some new friends:
Surround yourself with people who are where you want to be, or are on their way. This is huge. Go to small business owner get togethers. Become Facebook friends or other means of social media. Meet as often as possible. Get a mentor who is where you want to be. I found mine at www.micromentor.org. Great place to start.
Another method in how to deal with haters is, pump into your brain as much positive reinforcement as you can. Especially in the beginning. It is easy to get a great start and then fizzle out. After-all, you might have to fail a lot first. Learn from your mistakes, and try again. If all that wasn’t enough, to have people you care about laugh at you, or tell you you are wasting your time, can have a toll on you. Having the end in mind at all times, a love for what you do, a strong mindset foundation, and support from others are all ingredients for success. I can’t stress enough how important it is to hunker down and stay the course, and build that strong foundation.
You will have haters, even when you finally achieve the success you are after. So, you might as well be successful with people hating you than scraping by and having haters. We decide our futures. Others can either get with it or get moving.
I wish you success and Gladiator on!